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April 4, 2013

No one said it would be easy

Tonawanda News — Go ahead, tell us how you really feel, boss.

My first reaction upon reading Eric DuVall’s column on page 5A of the Wednesday Tonawanda News was amusement. Then annoyance. And then ... agreement. 

A cellphone isn’t a parenting device. The thought that it’s being marketed as one is amusing until you realize that people, no doubt, take it seriously. And that’s a column in and of itself, how so much marketing out there treats parents as individuals who are desperate to get out of the role (usually mothers) — or hapless idiots (usually fathers). I can’t deny I occasionally feel the urge to lock myself in the bathroom so I can read a book in peace for five minutes, but I went into this parenthood thing with my eyes open. No one ever said it would be easy.

As technology becomes more and more accessible to the rugrats among us, it becomes just one more parental debate. How much? What sort? When?

Am I blameless? I guess not. I freely admit that I recently purchased an iPod Touch with the express intent of co-owning it with my elder son ... and thereby entertaining him on an upcoming airplane flight. 

But in the end, it’s not about the technology. It’s about the parents.

An airplane isn’t a coffee shop. No matter how bad my coffee jones is (and the addiction is considerable), I don’t need to be at a coffee shop. I especially don’t need to sit and sip while my kids are left to their own devices. (Pun intended.) And no matter how well-behaved the child, any 4-year-old ignored and bored is going to start getting restless.

I’ve been to coffee shops with one kid or another (usually the Dunkin’ or Timmy’s varieties), but when I do, it’s on purpose. We get a treat. We sit. We talk about the trials of pre-K, or the varying merits of glazed vs. filled, or what the popular movie of the day is with the elementary-school set. You know, actual interaction. That’s how kids learn to sit still and handle themselves in a social situation, after all.

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