Tonawanda News


December 31, 2012

Parenting is all about the give and take


Tonawanda News — GET: The satisfaction of seeing my boy become potty trained. He’s even started going into the bathroom voluntarily.

GIVE: To the plumber, $300. Rigby discovered tossing toys down the toilet is way more fun that using it for its intended purpose. Seeing that little Elmo come soaked and coated in goo out of the sewage pump in the basement, I’m sure glad I didn’t have to make his journey. Oh, and the moment they can both complete every necessary task in the bathroom by themselves will be a joyous occasion, to be sure.

GET: A nice dinner out with my brother and sister-in-law.

GIVE: Twenty minutes of my time and a small piece of sanity after having to pull over and take both of them to the bathroom in a coffee shop. You ever try putting one of those diaper/underwear things on a 3-year-old who has no interest in putting it on and instead is trying to throw anything he can grab into the toilet?

GET: A Christmas card in the mail from Penny.

GIVE: Well, I’m not sure. I’m not sure what I did to make this little girl kind enough to think to have Christmas cards mailed to our house from her. Glad I did it, though.

GET: A giant hug from Rigby, the kind where he latches himself around my neck and doesn’t want to let go.

GIVE: I took him out to lunch. But he appreciated it. He’s learning to be thankful for the things he had. He’s GETTING it.

GET: A group hug from Penny and Rigby when I wake up in the morning.

GIVE: Rest. I can’t see the clock, but it’s pitch black dark outside, and my eyes have no desire to join the rest of me in waking up. And my back kills from the position I had to crowd into on the bed after RIgby joined us in bed sometime during the night. But after the 15th kiss from Rigby on the cheek, I’m considering this price one well paid.

Moments like this make the minor annoyances and inconveniences worth it — once you’re in a position to be able to process rational thought through the haze of fatigue and blindness of rage. At these moments, you can gather, regroup and find something even more to give.

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