Tonawanda News — “I like to look at that time in my life ... I like to say to myself that at my worst I was not my best. I say that because when all this was going on before the shooting and directly after, I had become a person I actually didn’t like.
“You get so caught up in everything going on around you. It becomes such a drama triangle and you get so caught up in him and people get sick of hearing about it. You start doing things you normally wouldn’t have done. “
“When a woman is going through this, she’s not herself, she’s not the person you knew and loved. And it’s because we just don’t know how to handle what is going on around us. We’re trying to keep ourselves safe, we’re trying to keep our kids safe.”
“Without (the YWCA), I wouldn’t have been able to go back to school, to become self-sufficient and stand on my own two feet,” Hickey said.DOMESTIC VIOLENCE BY THE NUMBERS YWCA of the Tonawandas (chapter head) • 443 -- the number of individual clients serviced annually • 126 -- the number of children serviced annually • 977 -- the number of people who call the hotline • 130 -- the number of men who attend the Offender Program • 253 -- the number of outreach programs • 569 -- the number of supervised visitation children National statistics reported between 1998 and 2002* (chapter head) • 3.5 million -- number of violent crimes against family members, 49 percent were against spouses • 84 -- percentage of spouse abuse victims that are women • 50 -- percentage of spousal abuse offenders in state prison who had killed their victims • 43 -- percentage of female murders in 2002 perpetrated by family members • 70 to 80 -- percentage of intimate-partner homicides that the man physically abused the woman before the murder • 3.3 to 10 million -- number of children who witness domestic violence annually • 30 to 60 -- percentage of perpetrators of intimate partner violence who also abuse children * According to the U.S. Department of Justice Contact features editor Danielle Haynes at 693-1000, ext. 4116.