Tonawanda News


October 15, 2012

A bit of me, a bit of you, a bit of ... who?

Tonawanda News — Genetics is a funny thing.

My two boys don’t look a thing like me. (At least, I don’t think so.) They look like their father, or their paternal grandfather, or to some extent my younger brother, with a dash of whichever random relative contributed the still-white-blond hair my youngest sports into the mix. 

(Don’t look at me; I have no idea. I was blond as a kid, but not that blond or for this long. The next time someone asks me where it came from, I swear I’m going to chirp “the milkman!” just to see what they’ll do.)

They both have blue eyes, but not my blue eyes. They’re either a particularly gorgeous dark blue (bequeathed to my eldest by his late paternal grandpa) or a slightly paler blue that could have come from various other relatives. To be fair, they don’t have hazel eyes from my husband, either, although since they both look strikingly like his childhood pictures I don’t think it matters much.

A collective 18 months of pregnancy, 30-some hours of labor and various bouts of morning sickness, stretch marks and other fun mommy stuff tell me pretty clearly they’re my kids. I don’t stress about the lack of a resemblance, although sometimes I wish I’d passed on just a little something, like a tendency toward red in their hair or the shape of my eyes. 

The older they get, though, the more I clearly see the non-physical characteristics I passed on to them for better or worse. Maybe it’s nature. Maybe it’s nurture. At any rate, it’s there.

My oldest, he takes after his dad, by and large. They both hate crowds, have an extraordinary ear for music and will thrive on late nights if given the opportunity.

Text Only
  • sig - critter companions RGB CRITTER COMPANIONS: Gardening with chickens

    There is no need to get mad as a wet hen if you want to juggle flourishing flower beds, viable vegetable gardens and free-range chickens.

    April 22, 2014 1 Photo

  • sig - critter companions RGB CRITTER COMPANIONS: Let's unlabel our pets

    Several weeks ago, I mentioned how we should not use labels. I said that labels are circular, meaning that if we use them we just will end up where we started. An example of a label is saying that “all scarlet macaws are vindictive” or “all pit bulls are aggressive.”

    April 22, 2014 1 Photo

  • SUN LIFE Volunteers honored 1 040614.jpg Women Who Move the City (and beyond)

    April 7, 2014 2 Photos

  • SUN LIFE POUND 1040614j jpg.jpg Rock n' roll fitness

    April 7, 2014 1 Photo

  • sig - crib notes RGB Enough of this winter -- it's time for spring

    Midway through separating the bits of dog food from the shredded paper towel pieces on the saturated bed sheet that had been strewn across the dining-room table, I finally realized I’d had enough.

    April 7, 2014 1 Photo

  • sig - critter companions RGB Dear readers, it's me, Kenny

    I have bad knees. I have been told to blame my grandmother. I have also been told to blame her for my love of animals. Today, we celebrate the 100th Critter Companions column.

    April 7, 2014 1 Photo

  • SUN LIFE mummies 1 033014.jpg 'Mummies of the World' exhibit arrives in Buffalo

    As visitors arrived for the recent NCAA basketball tournament games in Buffalo, a much older group of visitors arrived via motorcade at the Buffalo Museum of Science — but these newcomers to the Queen City wouldn’t be seeking out a place to have a beer between games or where to find the region’s best chicken wings.

    March 31, 2014 1 Photo

  • sig - double trouble RGB Years later, still spending sunny days on Sesame Street

    I always knew we’d hit “the Elmo years.”

    Going into parenthood, it seemed like a given. Both my husband and I  were “Sesame Street” fans from childhood ourselves, and we were happy enough to pass it on to a new generation. And we knew, having friends with children of the applicable age, that in this day and age “Sesame Street” equalled Elmo, the squeaky-voiced “furry red menace” (thus dubbed by Oscar the Grouch) of parents everywhere.

    March 31, 2014 1 Photo

  • SUN LIFE Local Restaurant Week 2 033014.jpg Back for another bite

    As spring finally starts to unfold in Western New York, residents are likely eager to get out of their houses — and organizers of Local Restaurant Week hope they’ll consider eating out as they do that.

    March 31, 2014 1 Photo

  • Wineries invite visitors to take a Taste of the Trail

    If one weekend of food and wine pairings is a good thing, two weekends of food and wine pairings must be even better.

    For the first time, the Taste of the Trail event, which takes place Friday through April 6 and April 11 to 13 on the Niagara Wine Trail, will be split into two weekends, with half the trail’s wineries taking part the first weekend and half the second, said Elizabeth Maute, wine trail coordinator.

    March 31, 2014