Tonawanda News


January 28, 2013

Dads deserve respect, too

Tonawanda News — This sentence has been said by members of both genders at some point when speaking about the opposite gender, but I just don’t get you sometimes, ladies.

Volumes of books, hours of television and thousand of words have been said face-to-face about how fathers should be involved in their children’s lives. Each of these words is absolutely true — kids need their dads in order to maximize what they can become and lead more well-rounded lives.

So why, then, are dads so often rebuked when trying to do just that?

Have any of you dads ever taken your kids to the doctor with their mothers? When there’s only room for one adult in the consultation room, guess which parent gets shunned to the waiting room with a condescending laugh and gesture? Not mom.

Have any of you dads ever been told (or have any of you moms ever said) “There’s just no love like a mother’s love?” That’s probably true. But no one can accurately claim that as irrefutable fact. No mom has ever been a dad. No one can make an accurate comparison. Not possible. And that’s said in a context that generally means, “I’m mom, so I love the kids most.” Again, how do you know? Why is it not possible for a dad to love their kids more?

Have you ever watched TV? You probably haven’t gone a day without seeing at least one commercial in which dad can’t wash the socks correctly, feeds his kids coffee grounds, tries to send them to school via the U.S. Postal Service or commits some other unexplainable act of idiocy. Really? Just because I’m not mom, that means I’m incapable of discerning chocolate from a granola bar and lack the capacity to care about the family portrait coming out correctly?

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