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June 27, 2013

So you want to defend marriage

Tonawanda News — I walked in the door after work on Wednesday, greeted my kids, kissed my husband ... and paused.

It had been more than six hours since the Supreme Court issued its ruling striking down the Defense of Marriage Act as unconstitutional. And, funny, my marriage felt just fine. Same as it had that morning, actually, although with both members a little more tired and stressed than earlier in the day (thanks to eight hours with the kids or at the office, respectively). I guess we didn’t need to be defended so much, after all.

I’ve never understood the rationale that opposing same-sex marriage is somehow protecting the more traditional form of union. No one’s telling Joe and Jill Q. Public who just picked up a marriage license that their upcoming nuptials are off. No one’s at my door telling my husband and I that our marriage is now invalid. No one’s tell our friends who just got engaged, “Nope, you can’t do that!  You have to go have a same-sex marriage! Sorry!”

So I don’t get it.

Now, if you’re against it for whatever reason, whether it’s religious or political or otherwise, that’s another thing. That’s up to you. You do get to decide for yourself. If you don’t like same-sex marriage, well, don’t get one. Don’t attend the ceremony. Don’t support those who marry, or those who support them.

Eventually, those getting married may be those you know and love personally, but these are choices we all have to make for ourselves.

But you want to defend traditional marriage, you say. Marriage the way you believe it should be. No one else’s beliefs or feelings matter.


You want to defend marriage? You want to protect the American family? 

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