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June 1, 2014

DUVALL: Five tips to survive and thrive on the wedding circuit

Tonawanda News — If you’re anything like me you’re about to embark on the annual summertime ritual, touring the wedding circuit.

My fridge is covered with save-the-dates and invitations. (OK, I really only have three that I know of this summer.) I pride myself on being an exceptional wedding guest.

Here are five tips that will make your wedding tour a tour d’force. 

WEDDING TIP NO. 1: Know what kind of guest is the happy couple expecting you to be.

Is this an old college buddy with whom you share some hilarious stories about keg parties in the freshman dorms? Is this a coworker you don’t know much outside the office? Is it a cousin or some other extended family member?

This matters for several reasons. People agonize over seating charts. If you’re remembered as the life of the party then you’re probably sitting at a table full of people roughly your age located fairly close to the bar. (I find myself at this table quite frequently.) Use this real estate to your advantage.

Perhaps you’re thought of as a smart conversationalist who can make witty cocktail party chit chat. If that’s the case, probably don’t come back from the bar with an extra three drinks to get you through the toasts and dinner.

WEDDING TIP NO. 2: Know how to be a good plus-one.

Whether you’re married, dating or just accompanying a friend it’s always fairly obvious when you’re the person nobody is going to know at the wedding. Think of your role here like you’re John Stockton to your date Karl Malone. Just keep feeding them the ball and let the Mailman deliver.

Forget telling any of your funny stories. It’s all about setting up your partner to look cool.

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